Dreaming About Your Ex: Spiritual Meaning and Hidden Messages

Dreaming of an ex-lover is one of those dreams that many people experience while sleeping. Together with Tử Vi Tâm Linh, we decode the meaning of dreams about an ex-lover as well as the auspicious numbers associated with events in those dreams.

Dreaming is an experiential, illusory phenomenon of the brain during sleep and occurs not only in humans but also in some mammals and certain birds. However, according to researchers who study dreams, most dreams bring certain omens. Suddenly, one fine day you see your ex-lover in your dream. You don’t understand why or for what reason images of your ex appear in the dream your mind constructs. After waking, you’re puzzled and don’t know what is happening or why. What omens might dreaming of an ex-lover bring, and what is the meaning of that dream? Tử Vi Tâm Linh explores the meanings of dreaming of an ex-lover and the auspicious numbers corresponding to each detail in such dreams.

Why do you dream of an ex-lover?

There can be many causes for dreaming of an ex-lover. One common cause is that longing and feelings for that person remain stored in your mind. Memories of your ex-lover — images, sounds, or sensations from that relationship — may still be vivid in your mind and appear in dreams.

In addition, dreaming of an ex-lover may also signal that you feel insecure about your current feelings. You might be wondering about your relationship, or feel dissatisfied with the person you are currently with. Dreaming of an ex-lover can be a way your mind expresses worry and doubt about your love life.

However, dreaming of an ex-lover may also have no special meaning and could simply be illusions created by your mind during sleep.

10 reasons you might dream of an ex-lover

1. Longing: Memories of your ex-lover — images, sounds, or sensations from that relationship — still linger in your mind and appear in your dream.

2. Lingering emotions: You may still feel passion or love for your ex, and those emotions remain lodged in your mind.

3. Fear of losing your current relationship: Dreaming of an ex-lover can be a sign that you fear losing your present relationship.

4. Doubts about your current relationship: You might be uncertain about your relationship or feel dissatisfied with who you are currently with.

5. Wanting to return to the past: You may feel a desire to go back to the past and relive memories with your ex.

6. Wishing to get back together: You could subconsciously wish to reunite with your ex and restart the relationship.

7. Loneliness: You may feel lonely and miss your ex-lover.

8. Anger: You might still be angry at your ex, and the dream is how your mind expresses that anger.

9. Influence from movies or media: Some films, TV shows, music, or media can make you remember an ex and dream of them.

10. No specific reason: Dreaming of an ex-lover can also have no particular meaning and be just illusions of your sleeping mind.

The meaning of dreams about an ex-lover

According to dream analysts, dreaming of an ex-lover is often associated with many different meanings. Each person’s dreams usually contain different scenes and contexts that depend on the specific content of the dream. Specifically, refer to the following interpretations of dreams about an ex-lover in each case below:

Dreaming your ex-lover is kidnapped

A dream in which your ex-lover is kidnapped can carry multiple meanings depending on the situation and the dreamer’s emotions. However, this is usually an alarming dream that causes worry. Here are some common interpretations:

• Fear of losing the ex-lover: The dream can be a sign of anxiety and fear of losing that person.

• Loss of control: It may signal worry that you no longer control the situation.

• Lingering feelings: The dream might indicate longing and that old feelings remain in your mind.

• Loss and helplessness: It can reflect a sense of loss and helplessness in the face of an unwanted situation.

Dreaming your ex-lover crying

A dream of your ex-lover crying can carry different meanings depending on context and the dreamer’s feelings. Here are some common interpretations:

• Longing and regret: The dream may indicate longing and regret about the past when you were together.

• Fear of losing the ex-lover: The dream could be a sign of worry or fear of losing that person.

• Hurt emotions: It may reveal sorrow or emotional injury after the breakup.

• Emotional release: The dream might indicate a release of emotions and the need to be forgiven or to forgive the ex.

Dreaming your ex with someone new

Dreaming of your ex going with someone new often signifies a new beginning or change in life. This may suggest a transition from one relationship to another or from one job to another. It can also express excitement, expectation, and hope for the future. However, if in the dream you feel sad or worried seeing your ex with someone new, that may indicate insecurity or confusion about changes in your life.

A dream of your ex with someone new can be a sign that the decision to break up was the right choice. If you still maintain a relationship with your ex, it might be difficult for both of you to find true happiness. Thus, both of you choosing separate paths can be a wise decision.

Dreaming your ex-lover getting married

If you dream your ex-lover is getting married, this can be a sign that you have matured and are no longer stuck in the past of that relationship. The dream also indicates that you are ready for a new relationship — a turning point in your life.

Dreaming your ex wants to come back

Dreaming that your ex intends to return often signifies longing for the past and hope to restore the old relationship. However, it can also indicate that you have not fully adapted to your present life and are seeking stability from the past. If you are in a new relationship, this dream might reflect insecurity or worry about your feelings toward your current partner. It might also be an opportunity to review the old relationship and learn important lessons for the future.

Dreaming your ex died

A dream where your ex-lover dies often represents sorrow, loss, and regret. It can signal difficulty accepting and processing emotions during a period of major change. However, sometimes such a dream might have other meanings, like awareness of life’s impermanence and change, or an indication of acceptance of loss and life renewal.

Dreaming you were abandoned by your ex

Dream analysts say dreaming of being abandoned by an ex-lover has different meanings. Here are some possible interpretations:

• Unresolved emotions: The dream may reflect unresolved feelings or a sense of being left behind in relation to the ex. You may still feel hurt, sorrow, or insecurity about the past breakup.

• Fear of losing something important: The dream may reflect fear of losing something important, with the ex representing part of that. You might worry about losing attention, affection, or someone you love.

• Desire to end the past: The dream could indicate a desire to close the past chapter and move forward. You might be trying to face the past and continue on a new path without being haunted by your ex.

Dreaming of running away with your ex

Dreaming of running away together with an ex-lover can have different interpretations. Here are some meanings that may relate to this dream:

• Nostalgia for the past: The dream may reflect missing the past and the relationship that ended. You might long for the time you spent together and wish to return.

• Escapism: The dream can also express a desire to escape or get away from a difficult or pressured situation in current life. The ex may symbolize an escape from present reality.

• Feeling unable to escape the past: The dream might reflect a sense of being unable to detach from the past, such as difficulty facing reality and moving forward. You may feel bound by the past and unable to progress.

Dreaming of your ex repeatedly

If you dream of your ex appearing many times, that can have multiple meanings:

• Remembering the past: The dream may reflect reminiscing about the past and the ended relationship. You may remember the time you spent together or have vivid memories (good or painful) associated with your ex.

• Obsession: If you dream of your ex frequently, it may indicate obsession or dissatisfaction in your mind about the ended relationship. You may not have completely resolved issues with your ex, and the dream is how your mind processes these emotions.

• Nostalgia: This dream can also simply be nostalgia — a fond memory or part of your past you can’t forget. You might be looking back at the past with romantic feelings or remembering meaningful moments.

Dreaming of an ex-lover and auspicious numbers?

Each person interprets and decodes dreams differently, and there is no exact science to explain the precise meanings of dreams. However, in Vietnamese folk culture, some people believe that dreams can be linked to auspicious numbers. Below are some interpretations of dreams about an ex-lover and corresponding numbers in Vietnamese tradition:

• Dreaming your ex being beaten by someone else (28 - 55): May represent worry or fear regarding the past relationship; could be a sign of instability or conflict.

• Dreaming your ex bleeding (20 - 60): May correspond to sorrow or loss in the past relationship, or could signal that something is happening in the real life of your ex.

• Dreaming your ex being killed (48 - 99): May symbolize an abrupt ending or termination of the past relationship, or be an expression of anger or hurt toward your ex.

• A general or vague dream (31 - 83): Might be a dream without clear meaning or a special connection to the ex.

• Recurring dreams of the ex (58 - 88): Might represent nostalgia or the wish to return to the past relationship.

• Kissing many times (78): Could represent reminiscing about romantic memories with the ex.

• Having sex repeatedly (29 - 35): Could relate to passion or expectations about the past relationship.

• Hugging many times (70): Could relate to missing affection or the desire to be close.

(Then the text repeats the same numeric associations and interpretations in slightly different wording — below are the repeated items as presented:)

• Dreaming your ex being beaten (numbers 28 - 55): This can be a sign of tension or disharmony in past relations. It may warn that you are still holding negative feelings toward your ex and should reconsider your current relationship.

• Dreaming your ex bleeding (numbers 20 - 60): This can be a sign of pain, hurt, or insecurity in current or past relationships. It may represent loss or feelings of being hurt.

• Dreaming your ex being killed (numbers 48 - 99): This is an alarming dream and may stand for fear, anxiety, or insecurity about the previous relationship. It calls for attention and reflection on your emotions and current relationship.

• A general dream (numbers 31 - 83): A dream without clear detail; may represent universal feelings, mood, or ambiguity in current or past relationships.

• Recurring dreams (numbers 58 - 88): May indicate dissatisfaction or lack of fulfillment in current or past relationships. Could represent desire for a second chance or to change the past.

• Kissing many times (78): May indicate affection and a positive past relationship, or a wish to return and rekindle the relationship.

• Having sex multiple times (29 - 35): Might indicate sexual desire or a wish to regain intimacy.

(Additional new items listed:)

• Dreaming your ex gives you a gift: A sign that you are recalling the good things from the past. If you refuse the gift in the dream, it shows you are ready to let go and move forward. Auspicious numbers: 16 - 61

• Dreaming your ex has an accident: This dream symbolizes deep anxiety or guilt about past events. It reminds you to forgive yourself or the other person to find peace. Auspicious numbers: 45 - 67

• Dreaming your ex marries you: A sign that you still wish to reunite, or that you need to heal the “old” part of your soul. It could also be a sign that a new destiny is approaching, carrying similar energy. Auspicious numbers: 07 - 70

• Dreaming of happily talking with your ex: This is a favorable dream, reflecting that you have learned to accept and forgive. Your heart is balanced and ready to welcome new love. Auspicious numbers: 24 - 42

• Dreaming your ex reconciles and apologizes: This dream symbolizes inner reconciliation. You may have overcome pain and no longer hold resentment. If the person truly apologizes to you in real life, the dream further confirms you are ready to let go. Auspicious numbers: 09 - 90

• Dreaming your ex returns but you refuse: This is a good sign showing maturity and decisiveness. You are no longer ruled by the past and are moving toward a new future. Auspicious numbers: 19 - 91

Spiritual meaning of dreaming about an ex-lover

According to many spiritual schools, a dream about an ex-lover is not only a product of memory but also the resonance of energy between two souls that once had karmic ties. When you haven’t truly let go, emotional energy remains stored in the “spiritual field,” causing the dream to reappear as a way of “releasing karma” or “completing a bond.”

Therefore, if you repeatedly dream of an ex-lover, see it as a reminder to reflect on your emotions, extract lessons, and seek inner balance rather than cling to or be tormented by the past.

Closing 

Every dream is a fragment of a mirror reflecting our inner world. Dreaming of an ex-lover is not necessarily a bad thing — sometimes it is simply your soul reminding you of things that haven’t yet been healed, or a call to let go so your heart may be peaceful and light.

If a dream makes you feel distressed, treat it as an opportunity to listen to your own heart. Be grateful for the past, cherish the present, and open your heart to the good things that are coming. Because when you are truly at peace with what has passed, dreams of your ex-lover will gradually fade, making room for dreams of new happiness.

Tử Vi Tâm Linh believes: “No dream is meaningless — there is only a heart that is not yet ready to understand the message it sends.”
Wishing you peace, good sleep, and beautiful dreams!